Wonderful Curiosity: Establishing a Lively Perspective on Parenting

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As a parent, it can be easy to not see life with a sense of wonder. There’s a lot to get done. Time rarely slows down. And when you’re tired and haven’t had many chances to take a breath, exhale, and get yourself back into a good space, it can be challenging to find a connection to lightheartedness.

These challenges are often further complicated by a decline in curiosity. As people get older, there is more certainty about what life is and less openness to what is totally unknown about it. The lens through which the world is perceived becomes less limber and less lively.  

When parents are less curious about the world, it can adversely impact their children. If becoming an adult seems “unfun” – in the sense that adult life is seen as tiring and not particularly happy – then kids can come to develop beliefs that do not support their future well-being. In a sense, they will get “infected” by the energies that go along with those unhelpful beliefs.

How specifically does curiosity benefit parents? How does it benefit children? And what can parents do to promote curiosity in their families? Read on to learn more.


How curiosity benefits parents

Stronger bonds

Being more curious as a parent can lead to a stronger bond with your children. When you show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings, you open up avenues for better communication, which can help create a deeper understanding and empathy between you and your child. By tuning in more closely and actively listening to their responses, you can gain insight into their experiences, perspectives, and values. This can enable you to provide more meaningful support and guidance to your child, as well as foster a stronger sense of connection and trust, which creates a more supportive and nurturing environment that allows children to thrive.

Productive self-reflection

A second way that being curious benefits parent is by promoting productive self-reflection, which can lead to greater cognitive flexibility, awareness, and ease. When you approach your child with a curious and open-minded attitude, you are more likely to recognize your own assumptions, beliefs, and biases. This can help you to gain a better understanding of your child's perspective, as well as your own reactions and triggers. With greater self-awareness and cognitive flexibility, you may be able to respond more calmly and effectively to challenging situations, leading to less conflict with your child. Overall, cultivating curiosity can help parents develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their children, leading to better outcomes for the family.

Problem-solving resilience

Being curious can make parents more resilient problem solvers. When you approach challenges with curiosity, you establish a mindset that is supportive of taking on new and difficult problems. Curiosity encourages you to explore different perspectives and interpretations of life circumstances, which can help you to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. With a curious mindset, you are more likely to consider solutions that are broader than what you currently know, which can open up new possibilities for resolving difficult problems. In general, cultivating curiosity as a parent can help you to develop greater resilience, adaptability, and problem-solving skills, which can be applied to all areas of life.

 


How curiosity benefits children

Learning

Curiosity can help children improve their learning by fostering a love of exploration and a desire to discover new information. When children are curious, they are more likely to be engaged and motivated in their learning, which can lead to better retention of information and improved memory. Curiosity can also encourage independence, as children are more likely to seek out answers for themselves rather than relying on others. In addition, curiosity can promote critical thinking, as children are encouraged to ask questions, evaluate information, and make connections between different ideas.

Confidence

Curiosity can help children improve their confidence, making it less likely that they will face social challenges and more likely that they will feel empowered to take on new and uncomfortable experiences. Curious children are more likely to explore and try new things, which can help to build their self-esteem. Curiosity can also encourage children to pursue new information, which can help them to feel more prepared and knowledgeable in social situations. With greater confidence, children may be more likely to take risks, stand up for themselves, and navigate challenging situations, which can lead to better overall outcomes and a greater sense of empowerment.

Relationships

Curiosity can help children have better relationships by fostering a greater depth of connection, a willingness to acknowledge nuances and the bigger picture, and a deep compassion for others. Children are more likely to seek to understand other people, rather than making assumptions or judgments, when they have developed their curiosity. With greater understanding and empathy, children can form stronger connections with themselves, their families, and their peers, leading to more positive relationships and a greater sense of belonging. Overall, cultivating curiosity can help children to develop the social and emotional skills necessary for building meaningful and fulfilling relationships throughout their lives.

 


Ways to stimulate curiosity in your family

Questions

Parents can prompt curiosity in their children by asking open-ended questions that encourage exploration and discovery. Here are five sample questions:

  • What do you think will happen if...?
  • What is something that you have been wondering about?
  • What about the way life is surprises you?
  • How could we solve this problem together?
  • What kind of results is your current approach generating?

When asking these questions, it is important for parents to listen closely and be present with their full hearts, creating a supportive environment where children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and ideas. It is not the answers themselves that matter, but rather the qualities with which both parents and children engage the process. By fostering a sense of curiosity, parents can help their children develop a love of learning and a willingness to explore new ideas and perspectives.

Challenges / risk-taking

Parents can issue challenges to their children that promote curiosity and help them to explore new ideas and experiences. Here are five sample challenges:

  • Try a new food from a different culture and learn about where it comes from.
  • Choose a topic you're curious about and research it in-depth.
  • Learn a new skill or activity, like a musical instrument or a new sport.
  • Interview someone in your family about their life and experiences.
  • Visit a historical site and learn about its history and significance.

Encouraging children to try new things and explore new ideas can broaden their horizons and expand their understanding of the world around them. It can also help to build stronger connections within the family, as everyone learns and grows together. Overall, promoting curiosity in children can lead to a more fulfilling and enriching family life.

Process as well as outcome

Valuing the process as much as the outcome can help parents and children develop their curiosity by helping them appreciate life more, stay present, and be content with the world around them. When the focus is solely on the outcome, it can create an unbalanced and stressful environment that can be detrimental to both parents and children. However, by valuing the process, they can learn to enjoy the journey, rather than just the destination. This can lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, as well as a more positive relationship with the environment and people around them. By cultivating a curious and open mindset, parents and children can learn to appreciate the world and everything in it, without feeling the need to compete or compare themselves to others.

 


Conclusion

Parents can find benefit by emphasizing curiosity, both within themselves and within their children. Stronger bonds, deep self-reflection, and problem-solving resilience can all be promoted; kids can become more skilled with their learning, confidence, and relationships; and parents can engage their children through questions, challenges, and a focus on process over outcome to cultivate receptivity, empathy, and enthusiasm for the unknown.

Parents have the ability to take a perspective that allows them to see their lives, no matter what routines they repeat, as an inspiring adventure, one that can be engaged with playfulness, enthusiasm, and liveliness. This is a form of self-coaching. The more that parents can do so, the lighter they will feel, the more energy they will have, and the more inspiring they will be to their children.


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